Christians who can’t be bothered.

There are seasons for everything and apparently in this season of my life, I’m not meant to have any actual friends. I won’t mention any names here, but I just had a girl who I tried to disciple and be friends with, delete me recently. I was like “Wha…?” I didn’t do anything and besides being confused, I was a bit p’d off. People have seriously taught me one important lesson and that’s that they come and go. Being now 24-years-old and married, friends are hard to come by these days. My interaction with people is rare unless someone new comes to church. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking for a quantity of friends, just quality ones, but right now I have 0 friends I hang out with. The few people I actually get along with live out-of-state, so it’s not like I  can hang out with them. I do my fair share of asking people “Want to go do this?!” and that’s when I start getting excuses or flat-out ignored.

I’m just wondering when did Christians or supposed ‘Christians’ start closing themselves off and decided their ‘comfort zone’ was their best place to stay? What makes me mad is people who find a group of friends they grow comfortable with and then ignore the world around them. I’ve seen this in churches and it’s not cute and definitely not Christ-like. Churches are either divided or they don’t make contact with the other members. If I sound cynical, it’s because I am. I realize I need to get off my high-horse because I have sin too… but if we’re doing something that completely negates the Gospel, like not practicing discipleship… what are we doing with our Christian lives?!

Complacency is not something that the Lord honors. You can pat yourself on the back all day long about how much you’ve grown in the Lord, but if you’re not actually passing that onto other people and LOVING them… then you might be that noisy gong the Bible speaks of in 1 Corinthians 13:1 “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” (NIV)

Like I was telling my sister tonight, some people’s sin annoys me. The church should be about unity, breaking bread. I could easily blame the world and say “Oh technology makes things less personal and people are more closed-off because of it…” But sin takes a deeper root, it’s in the hearts. Technology is just a distraction or wall built up to be passive about our sin. Seriously, when is the last time you looked at your heart? Or are you too busy checking Facebook to know?


Feeling lonely

I’m writing a blog from my phone for the first time, so I hope I don’t have too many typos. Darn auto-correct, you come in handy when I’m lazy, but boy do you know how to butcher a serious sentence, haha.

I’ve been trying to think of ways to get involved with a community of believers because at our current church me and my husband are the 20 some year olds there. The majority is either under 10 years old or 50+. Sure, we can visit a church for their young adult ministry, but I’m not looking to get lost in the crowd. It seems like that’s the case for most churches today and how we’ve got in the habit of keeping to ourselves.

I can guarantee this is just a season God is trying to walk me through, but I go back to getting frustrated and tired of waiting this out. I get I should learn contentment and I have for the most part… it’s still a struggle though.

Jefferson Bethke tweeted Timothy Keller the other day and asked him what one piece of advice he could give our generation:


So maybe I’m not crazy? I’ve debated asking if the young ladies I tried to meet up with before would like to give our study another try… but with a different attempt. Sometimes things don’t go the way you plan and you have to work your way around that. I’ve got to learn that it’s okay if something doesn’t go by the book. I’ve had to learn that through teaching the children and youth at our church.

If anyone can comment below on how they got their church groups to get together and how they worked through schedules, please let me know. I need all the advice I can get.


I guess things aren’t bad in and of itself, but they’re not necessarily good for you either. It all goes back to 1 Corinthians 10:23 “You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is good for you. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is beneficial.” So just because you can watch that reality tv show, read those make-believe fantasies, listen to that music, go to that friend’s house, have a girl’s night out, or whatever… does not mean it’s good for you.

I had to question my heart earlier as to why I get so annoyed with people not being on my same level of thinking. Facebook is just one of those things in particular that ‘gets my goat’ because people are now going through this phase of liking pictures. “Like this picture if you know who this is”. I’ve seen these pictures about deformed ‘cute couples’ and we like these pictures to what… pity these people?! Act like we have a good heart because we’re not judging them for what they look like? If you quote something from a popular movie, you’ll get instant likes. When you post something about Christ, well… good luck even getting anyone to read it!

I’ve been sharing a lot of Way of the Master (an Evangelical ministry) videos and just sharing things from Scripture or my heart and it seems as if no one cares. Not that it’s about me, but why don’t they like more important things like God?! Or why do their statuses consist of it being all about them and what they’re up to… and not about God? I feel like Christianity  today is so surface-level, even within the church… people who call themselves ‘Christian’. I know everything I’m feeling can shift towards the dangerous side of self-righteousness, but I don’t think it’s heading that way. I’m acknowledging how I feel and I’m praying about it.

I just feel like I’m at that point of Philippians 3:8 with God… “Yes, everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ.” Seriously… I don’t see the point or value in most things anymore, I know that sounds depressing, but I think it’s just a matter of seeing where my priorities are. I’m in no way judging anyone because I know that I was the same way a few years ago before I took my walk with God seriously.

Deep down, I feel alone sometimes with my emotions. Proverbs 14:10, “Each heart knows its own bitterness and no one can share in its joy.” If you’re anything like me or just a female for that matter, you’re going to know how this feels. Your heart feels something, intense, and you want to share that with… anyone, anyone who will just GET what you’re saying. But then you just get frustrated when you try to seek that person or expect others to befriend you and your feelings. There’s just no point in expecting anything from anyone, your heart is your heart. It’s yours for a reason and only God can know where your heart stands. And guess what? That’s okay. I know we want people to relate to us because it’s almost as if sharing in that burden of whatever it is that’s pressing our heart… I know it makes you feel even more lonely, but I think we forget to look at how beautiful our situation really is. We don’t even realize just how intimate this is, that only God can know our heart. I mean really know.

The next time you find yourself teetering over the edge of self-pity, just remember that you’re not alone. I know how you feel and more importantly, so does God. We can share an intimacy with Him that no one will ever be able to have or even know about :)!